Last year I was looking for some fun ideas for play time with my partner. I knew that “kinky” advent calendars exist, but most of them have low value surprise toys. And as we all know choosing toys is a pretty personal thing. There has to be something better I thought and started looking all over reddit, and that’s when I stumbled on a thread with some ideas1. I created a list of 24 different spanking scenarios, and wrote them on small pieces of paper by hand. As always with anything related to BDSM it is important that this is consensual and you have agreed on a safeword, and that the person giving the spanks/hits will respect it. You should also at least consider aftercare, I know this is an unpopular opinion, but Doms or Tops may need aftercare too. If you are new to the whole impact play thing, it is a good idea to create a list of more than 24 scenarios and discuss it with your partner choosing those that both of you agree on. It will give you both some idea of what the other person is into, but also knowledge of their boundaries. Below you will find list of my scenarios with some additional ideas for mixing it up.
- With a hand, very quick series of 200 spanks.
- With a paddle, 30 times while you are laying on your stomach.
- With a big metal tongue depressor, 30 times.
- With a paddle, until you make a sound.
- With a carpet beater, 10 times
- With a paddle. Bend over and grab your ankles, I will spank you 50 times, for every time you let go of your ankles I will add 10 more.
- With a paddle, 50 light ones
- With a hand. You will be laying over my knee and I will spank you 40 times.
- With a hand, pick your favourite christmas song and I will spank you with the rhythm.
- With a hand, until you will beg me to stop.
- With a delrin cane. You will be standing with your face against a wall, and I will give you 25 hits.
- With a hand, for five minutes. If you make a mistake counting, we pause the timer and you get 20 hard spanks with a paddle.
- As a warmup 30 slow ones with a hand
- With different implements. With an eye mask, and headphones. I will tie you up if you are up for it.
- With a long ruler, until you twitch.
- I will pick 5 implements form our collection, I will spank you with each one until you guess which one it is.
- Spankees choice. You choose what implement(s) and how many times.
- With a medium paddle, 30 times.
- With a riding crop, 30 times
- With the huge paddle, 10 times.
- With a small paddle, 60 quick ones.
- With a paddle, until you make a mistake counting.
- With a wooden spoon, 40 times.
- With a hand. You have to think of words starting with a letter S. I will spank you as long as you will keep the words coming.
The list above is in random order so that my partner has at least some amount of surprise.
You can mix it up in any way, the list above is composed of things that work for me and my partner. One of the things worth considering is changing few of the scenarios to some type of care. Butt massage, applying ointment, or “spanking” with a feather, so that the person that is receiving the spanking has a day of rest. If you want to you can make it much more sexual, with adding buttplugs or pussy spanking into the mix. You can also deviate from the original idea of a spanking advent calendar, and include other types of play. You can also check this reddit thread for more ideas.
Instead of a physical calendar you can create one using myadvent or a similar service. It is especially useful if you want to avoid uncomfortable questions from friends and family.
Merry Christmas and Happy Spanking 😈
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I could not find the reddit thread that inspired me. If I find it I will update the post. ↩